In today’s world, there is a misconception of how you should look to feel great and attract members of the opposite sex. The popular consensus pushed by mainstream media is to have a “hot” curvy body or pump iron until your pecs bulge through your t-shirt. 

However, this socially constructed norm is the root of shame for anybody that does not fit the stereotypical body shape. This issue is so ingrained in our society that it’s become toxic, even to the extent that it’s polluting the mind’s of men that prefer dating big, beautiful women (BBW).

On the internet, you read stories about self-conscious 16-year olds fantasying about dating curvy women with wide hips, big butts, and round bellies, but through shame dump these poor beauties because their mates start making jokes and teasing them. 

Ken Page, a psychotherapist and author of the book Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. says: ” “We are victims of horrible information…the learning we get around how attraction works, the way we’re supposed to look and act, it’s as if it was written by a group of anxious teenagers. It’s dangerous, misguided, and mostly non-science based.”

As a matter of fact, scientific studies reveal the exact opposite of the general public consensus; everyone just finds a certain type of look “hot”. Some guys like slender girls, other guys are attracted to big women with large breasts and child-bearing hips. But sexual attraction is not only about looks.

Why men are attracted to BBW

Fat girls are easier to get into bed and men that like big women have no self-confidence are common myths that are not true. Men that like big, beautiful women are not perverts or sexual deviants either. They just don’t conform to the belief of the general public that thin is beautiful. 

The truth is that sexual attraction has a lot less to do with looks than most people think. Human desire originates from how fertile we smell, positive personality traits, and “emotional attraction.”

Emotional attraction is when you are drawn to somebody’s nature rather than how they look. This is the first rule of building a loving and long-lasting relationship. 


To think of a sexual partner as someone that has a certain shape or size downgrades the other person. Moreover, people that enter a relationship based on physical attraction rarely have an emotional connection beyond the bedroom.

Reenaye Starr, a BBW who featured in the Channel 4 documentary “My Big Fat Fetish” with Nick Betts says: “There are so many different kinds of ‘fat admirers.’ Some men are not interested in squashing at all. Some men are just into big ladies looking cute. And then there are some into hardcore pornography who want to see big ladies having sex. It all depends on what your sub-fetish is—but to these men, being with a big woman in any capacity is their ultimate desire.”

Mainstream media may want to build up a social stigma around being fat, but men that think big is beautiful have more chance of meeting women they can build a long-lasting and loving relationship with. 

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